The Proposal
I love to hear proposal stories, it’s one of the frequent questions we ask our potential clients at our first meeting. Whether it’s elaborate or simple, private or full of people, no matter what, it will be memorable to both of you. My own proposal was…let’s just call it different. My now husband and I were having a conversation. The conversation had been started by someone else, but continued when the two of us were alone. He was in the military and getting ready to be transferred to school back east. The conversation went something like this…
Now husband “so what do you think?’
Me “think about what?”
NH “getting married”
Me “are you asking me”
NH “yes I am, but I need to talk to your dad first”
We had known each other for 7 years and we were 18 and 19.
We are Italian and traditional so, true to form, everyone came over and once my husband asked my father, then everyone celebrated…38 years later as I help people plan their weddings and ask that question, “so tell us about the proposal?” I have never heard one like mine. BUT it was mine, so unique to who we are and I don’t wish that it had been any other way. (In fact I never got an engagement ring and that’s ok too, You will hear more about that when we talk about rings).
Here are a few tips for your proposal
Make it personal to you
It can be big and grand or small and intimate
Have a party or be alone on vacation, do what feels right for your relationship dynamic.
Remember, if your significant other does not like the spotlight, don’t thrust them into it with your proposal, that will cause them great discomfort.
If you are able, have a photographer to capture the moment, it doesn’t have to be a professional, it can be family or a waiter at the restaurant.
Continuing on with the photography theme, make sure that you give your significant other enough information to make sure they are dressed appropriately. They won’t want to look like a hot mess if you are dressed nicely.
Either party can propose
Remember, it’s about the two of you and your love for each other, not the place, not the grandeur, not the ring.
It’s been 38 years for me…